Why are you living life through other’s eyes?
Many of us spend the bulk of our days wondering what others think of us, deciding the best way to please the masses, dissecting every second of a moment that we can no longer get back. We try to act how our mothers want us to act, work wear our papas want us to work, dress how our lovers want us to dress and talk how our friends want us to talk.
Have you personally found yourself in this predicament? I have. But that was many, many years ago.
Ask any of my closest friends, my motto has always been “Do you.” I believe it with every fiber in my being. If we aren’t ‘doing us’ then we aren’t being authentic. If we aren’t ‘doing us’ then we truly aren’t even doing for others. By living our lives based on an authentic self, we are of service to everyone else (and ourselves) because life is purposeful. When we embrace our authentic self, we have a clearer understanding of how we fit in this puzzle. On the other hand, living our lives for others is trivial. In other words, it makes very little sense to live YOUR life based on someone elses standards that they have for THEMSELVES.
The ideals that our families, friends and colleagues have are what they consider best for themselves. Often times, they project these ideals and wants onto others as if there is a one-size-fits-all solution. Fortunately, there is no one answer to all in this “reality”.
Life is meant to be fun, joyous, expansive! Life is meant to be lived on your own terms. Not others. Look up the word authentic….. (I’ll give you a sec…).
There is nothing in the definition that denotes “for others”?
So, how do you begin to live the authentic life that YOU are meant to live? EASY! Do what feels good. When you engage in activities, relationships or work that feels good, you are beginning to embrace your authentic way of life. No one knows what’s best for you, except for you, my friend.
Posted on November 8, 2011, in Life Coaching and tagged how to get what you want in life, how to start living your purpose, life coaching, living life authentically, what is my purpose?. Bookmark the permalink. Leave a comment.